I, until recently, have always worked in industries that were dominated by men. As a young graduate, I worked in technical theater. I was the only girl in the department when I first got into the business. As I transitioned into set design, I was still the only girl in the area. When I left the theater industry and got involved with retail, I wound up being the first female store manager in my district (not to mention, the youngest). I have constantly worked with men, beside men, and against men. Now, I'm in a female dominated industry - literature - and I'm okay with that, simply because it doesn't really matter either way.
I get why International Women's Day became a thing... just like Black History Month. It was once well-deserved. But, as a woman, I have to say - things are getting carried away.
I don't want to be celebrated just because I'm a woman. I want to be celebrated because I kick ass... because of WHO I am and WHAT I do, not because of what's between my legs. I had no control over what gender I was born, and it doesn't matter, because my gender does not define me and what I'm capable of. Yes, I'm a strong, independent PERSON, but not because I'm a woman and Beyonce is telling me I should be. I'm a strong, independent person because I had to be, because that's part of being an adult - no matter your gender.
I don't want to work for a company that only focuses on females.... I want to work for a company that focuses on humanity, on everyone. I recently saw yet another production company pop up that was female owned, operated, and staffed and focused on strong, female characters. I don't want to see that. Where's the dynamic? Yes, it's good to have strong female role models, but it's also important to see strong male characters as well, because let's face it, everyone should be strong and independent in today's society. To focus on only one gender as such seems silly - and truthfully, offensive.
If I'm applying for a job and it's between me and a male, I don't want the job simply because I'm a woman and they have a quota to meet. I want the feckin' job because I kick ass at what I do and I'm the better candidate. If I'm not, please - give the job to the male because clearly, I haven't done my legwork.
I get that women had to fight for what we have now - and I thank and applaud all of the women that stood up and put their foot down. I would have been right there beside them, I'm sure. I love a good fight for the 'right thing.' But, at some point, we have to stop segregating ourselves. We want to be seen as equals? Then work for it, prove it, and show those men what's what. But, we can't demand totally equality while we're parading around with our own day, our own quotas for industry, and our own rules.
Yes, girl power rocks and all that. But men rock just as much - and you know what? That's okay. I'm not fighting the male species. I want to work beside them, with them, to better humanity. Not to show off that we're stronger because we have boobs. That's just ridiculous. Nature gave us what we have and we have to make do. It's not our fault we were born female, just as much as it's not their fault they were born male... or black, or white, or gay, or whatever labels you want to throw in here.
I want to be awesome, I want to be celebrated, I want to be recognized... but not because I'm a woman and that's my right. I want all those things because I'm kicking ass in my job, my life, my family, and am doing it all without being an alcoholic or going insane. I want to be celebrated because I'm the best, not because I have a certain appendage lacking between my legs.
Things always feel better when you work for it. And I say this to everyone - not just women. We shouldn't have Internationally recognized days because of how we were born.... but because of what we chose to do with those lives after that point.
At some point, we have to realize we're all equal and just move on.